I have this friend who I have known for almost three years. However, the biggest problem is that I do not trust this person. I have been lied to before and I do not know how to regain my trust in him. I really should befriend this person for throwing phones at me, harassing me on Facebook, and trying to be someone he is not. I do not understand why he will not become my Facebook friend. What do I do? How can I re-build my trust in my friend?
-Distressed Facebook User
I can see you are eager to get some help with your questions, as you have sent your message twice now. I have to admit, I've read this a few times and I still find it a bit confusing. On the surface, the answer to all of this seems simple, and is best answered with another question: Why would you want to be friends with this person? After all, he has lied to you, thrown phones at you (lol) and harasses you on Facebook. Yet, you're saying these ARE reasons you "really should befriend this person." I'm sorry, but that just doesn't make any sense to me. And even though he harasses you via FB, you're confused as to why he hasn't become your FB friend. (??) I don't use Facebook so I'm not completely sure how it works, but I assume it's similar to other social networking sites. So if he's not accepting your friendship requests, but he continues to harass you, just fucking block him! But that won't solve the problem, will it? There is obviously something deeper going on here. I'm assuming that in three years of knowing him, that you either have had, or wanted to have some sort of relations with this dude. I'm sure you've heard the term "He's just not that into you." Well, it may be a hard pill to swallow, but it's quite apparent that's whats going on here. Move on. Trust issues often times begin with the person in the mirror. Forget about this guy and work on yourself. Don't waste so much time and energy worrying about trivial things like Facebook. In the grand scheme of life, none of this shit matters. Instead, focus on finishing out this last week of junior high school. Trust me, next year, when you're a big kid, you will have forgotten about all of this. Enjoy your summer!